Mind your own

Recently I’ve been noticing more and more how often people gossip about others. Gossip is something that I was never really used to dealing with since I grew up in a home where it was never encouraged or even tolerated. But everyone has their weaknesses, and sometimes that weakness is gossip. Gossip, to me, stems from insecurities, comparing yourself to others, and becoming jealous or feeling the need to be judgmental about another person’s decisions. While gossiping was never really a huge weakness of mine, I do sometimes struggle with comparing myself to others- I just am not as vocal about it. I think it’s  kind of a girl thing- to be hard on yourself and compare yourself or what you have to another person and what they have.

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Isn’t it funny how when we get ready in the morning and a little piece of our hair won’t cooperate, or our eyeliner won’t go on just right, we think for some reason that everyone will not only notice, but CARE. haha! It sounds silly when I say it, but I know I’ve thought it before and I’m sure (at least I hope) I’m not alone. I remember growing up when somebody would say “mind your own business” it always seemed like it carried a negative connotation. Now I view that sentence as such a happy thing. I’ve been trying really hard to mind my own business lately, since I realized how much gossip goes on around me on a daily basis. I thought I’d give it a try to not only not gossip myself, but also not be around other people who do. Minding my own business has brought me confidence, peace, happiness, and a more Christlike love for others. When you don’t care what other people think, and don’t concern yourself with decisions that others are making, you have more time to focus on yourself and what makes you happy, and see others the way their Father in Heaven sees them.

Since I’ve begun my experiment of avoiding gossip and comparison, I find it so much easier to be happy in my own life. Being in college, it’s really easy to fall into the trap of doing things that you think will be acceptable in your friend group, your family, or just in society as a whole. Everybody will always have an opinion, and some will even offer it when nobody asks. But it’s not our job to make sure those people don’t offer their opinion- it’s our job to just not care when they do. One of my favorite country artists, Kacey Musgraves just came out with a new song that basically talks about just this. We can’t control what people say or think about us, but we can control how, and IF we let if affect us. Here is the song, hope you will give it a listen!

Short post, but like she said, mind your own biscuits and life will be gravy!

-Jenny

5 comments

  1. Christine says:

    I appreciate people who don’t respond to me if I try to gossip. They don’t get the thrill of hearing something so it stops me and makes me think about it.

    I really liked that song, both my girls were dancing to it.

  2. Jennifer says:

    I liked the song, very catchy :) also, I think these are very wise words Jenny. If you can master this when you’re young, I think you’ll be very far ahead in the game of life. I really do. I have to admit I have one super judgmental part of my personality and it is when mormon girls wear bikinis… it’s a personal pet peeve, but I’m working on it….:) (sidenote, if any of the loveflock wear bikinis, don’t kill me!)

  3. Chrissy says:

    I had a friend in high school that made a bold comment that made a huge difference in how I thought of gossip. There were 7ish of us girls sitting around a table in Interior Design class. One of our classmates was gone that day (we’ll call her Beth) and one girl said “I heard that Beth …(unflattering rumor)…” And this other girl, Jess, immediately spoke up and said very boldly, “We’re not going to do that.” The girl with the rumor started to say that she was just curious and didn’t really believe it but just wanted to know if we had heard anything. Jess said “It doesn’t matter. We’re not going to talk like that in here.”
    We were only Juniors and I was so impressed that someone my age would have been brave enough to say something like that so boldly. I would have been worried that I would’ve come off as judgemental or bossy if I had said that. Also, I secretly DID want to know if that rumor was true. And I bet Jess wanted to know too. Or wanted to at least know if we knew anything. But she was so wise to just instantly shut it down with the statement “We’re not going to do that.” I want to be more like that. Let people know that gossip will not be tolerated around me.

  4. Venita says:

    I love that statement, Chrissy, and that she included all of you by saying “we”, thus not coming off as thinking she was better than everyone else. Gossip is just mean. Nothing good comes from it. Given my current situation, I’m so aware of people I see everywhere, at the store, at church, in the restaraunt.. We People all have our public faces, but have private struggles. I sat in church yesterday feeling sorry for myself and my “burdens” and felt I was on the verge of crying, but didn’t. Made me think how we all need cheerleaders, not judges. We’re hard enough on ourselves. Life should be like planet fitness, a no judgement zone.

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