Have you ever been hurt by someone? Have you ever been the one causing pain for someone else? I’ve experienced both, and probably everything in between. I had a great discussion with someone I am really enjoying getting to know about letting go, forgiving, repenting and starting fresh. It’s a difficult thing to do, especially when the offender or the one you’ve hurt is close to you. My new friend taught me, reminded me, that we must forgive, no matter what, even if the person isn’t seeking forgiveness, or if they don’t realize they’ve done something wrong. Their feelings are irrelevant to our own well being. We must let it go and truly turn it over to the Lord. Her example really had am impact on me.
The adversary wants us to harbor bad feelings, towards others and about ourselves. It is how he works. The result of those feelings breed negativity, nothing positive ever comes from them. It is only through the Savior we feel better, lighter, and relieved of those bad feelings when we truly turn over to Him our burdens, and forgive, forgive others and forgive ourselves. It’s sometimes harder to forgive ourselves, and yet so important.
It is something I have struggled with over the years, holding a grudge, letting go. In fact, my sweet dad, who never said an unkind thing, in the “advice” he gave Tim before we married, was that I have been known to hold a grudge! Ouch! But, it was true, still stung, but he was right, so I couldn’t be mad at him….for long. I have gotten better, but still it is hard. I really appreciated my friend sharing her experience and reminding me that when we carry around those grudges, hard feelings and pain, we need forgiveness ourselves. Sounds funny, but I can attest that it is true, for when I have recognized the wrong in carrying around hard feelings and repented of that, I feel free. I have also found that once I have given up the grudge, I am able to feel compassion for the “offender”, I can truly pray for them and mean it. I can have love for this person. That is a good feeling, worth the effort to let it go, not in the Frozen, Idina Menzel sense of the word, but still, let it go.
I love Mother Teresa and learning about her amazing selfless life. She had much wisdom and truly loved people and always strived to serve completely. She had on the wall in the Mother Teresa home for Children in Calcutta, her own version of a favorite poem. I just love the sentiment, especially the last line.
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
Isn’t she great! “It was never between you and them anyway…” I needed this little post for a reminder of the wonderful healing that comes from truly forgiving. Perhaps you have someone you are thinking of that you could add to your prayers and love again.